Ex-Cons

I have a cousin that will soon be getting out of prison. When prisoners are freed from prison, they still are not really free. They have to report to a parole officer on a regular basis, and there are a number of things they cannot do depending on the terms of their parole. I think divorce is like being paroled from prison. You are glad your sentence is over. You've done your time. But there are connections to the past that still linger; joint debts, tax bills, children, memories, etc.

How do I find "me" when I am still entwined in this old relationship? Will I always have this connection? Even after financial entanglements are over, I still have the children and memories (there were some good ones). My daughter is living with me right now. We are not very combatible I've discovered. Conflicts abound. I fear the patterns that were developed during my marriage are being replayed. Guess I'm going to have to man up and arrange for her to find somewhere else to live. I don't like conflict, and I know this is going to cause a huge argument.
It's either this or my friends can find me in an institution soon.